15 Things to Avoid if You Want to Be Happy

Sometimes, it seems like we're all on a quest to find happiness. While there's so much to be happy about, certain things can rob you of your joy. In an online discussion, people shared what can destroy your happiness.

1. Worrying About the Future

Everyone thinks about the future and plans for it, but spending too much time worrying about the future will do more harm than good. One person shared that living our lives in expectation of when you get a promotion, when you meet the one, or when you're earning 10% more instead of enjoying the journey can leave you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy.

2. Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy. So many people fall into the trap of comparing themself to others, whether their success, appearance, or lifestyle. Someone suggested that getting rid of social media really helped them avoid comparison. Learn to step back from social media to avoid feeling envious of others.

3. Anxiety

Anxiety can be extremely debilitating and a major destroyer of happiness. One young person shared that anxiety is the reason they isolate themself and why they feel like the worst friend to anyone who is still speaking to them. It prevents them from truly interacting with the others.

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4. Unsolved Problems in Life

We all have our problems. But according to one commenter, true happiness comes from solving the problems in your life. The inability to solve your problems could lead to anxiety that will not go away. So whether it's a relationship, job, or health issue, try to face your issues head-on.

5. Expectation

Unrealistic expectations for ourselves or others can set you up for disappointment. Someone remarked that they noticed the root of conflict with friends and loved ones is when expectations don't meet reality. When you expect someone to do something and they don't, it makes for unhappiness.

6. Avoidance

Someone shared that as long as you keep running away from something, it will keep coming back. When we avoid our problems or responsibilities, they become more prominent and overwhelming. It's important to face our problems head-on, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable.

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7. Resentment

It's so important to practice forgiveness and let go of grudges. Someone remarked that resentment will eventually destroy everything in your life. We only hurt ourselves when we hold onto grudges or negative feelings towards others.

8. Pride and Ego

One anonymous commenter says pride and ego will make you your worst enemy. You'll always think there's more to achieve but never be satisfied. But you could live a more fulfilled life by practicing humility and being grateful for what you have.

9. People-Pleasing

If you prioritize others' opinions or desires over your own, you can lose sight of your needs and desires. One person said that pleasing others at the expense of who you are could cause you to lose yourself. Always set healthy boundaries with others and make self-care a priority.

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10. Depression

One woman said that depression is a disease so severe, insidious, and uncompromising it reverses the most basic human instinct: survival. There are so many treatments available for depression, so if you're feeling depressed, it's essential to seek help from a professional.

11. Inaction

Inaction will leave you feeling unfulfilled and stagnant. One man said that if you don't have a goal to work on, no matter your status, wealth, or contentment in life, you will end up feeling lonely and depressed. Take one step daily, no matter how small, to reach your goal.

12. Financial Struggles

Someone shared that economic insecurity, debt, and financial worries can be a significant source of unhappiness. If you're struggling financially, it can be challenging to focus on anything else. It isn't always easy to bounce back from financial difficulties, but with a clear budget and discipline, you can get back on track.

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13. Negative thoughts

Someone shared that pervasive negative thoughts, like chronic worry, self-doubt, or rumination on past mistakes, can destroy happiness. We only reinforce negative beliefs when we focus on negative thoughts or self-talk. Instead, practice positive self-talk and focus on the good in your life.

14. Absence of Social Life

We are social creatures and need to have meaningful connections with others. One woman shared that having friends, family, and a significant other brings the most meaning to our lives. If you're feeling isolated, try to connect and reach out to others.

15. Stress

One anonymous commenter said that high stress levels, whether due to work, financial issues, or personal life, can have a profound negative impact on one's happiness. Stress can hurt your mind and body. Set aside some time every day to unwind from the day's stress.

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Cindy

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She started her blog, The Money Dreamer, when she realized the 9-5 job was not the lifestyle she wanted anymore. After designing for a while, she wanted a more meaningful life, which was freedom, so she decided to venture out. She took action so that she can live her dream life and decided to help people to live theirs by helping them how to save, budget, and invest.